Is it possible to love someone you haven met in person

After that we are chatting continously. I've been dating someone online for about a year - We started talking about 1. I trust them, I think they're adorable as hell, and I'm looking forward to it for sure.

But I'm pretty anxious about it, with all the 'what ifs' in my head and worrying about irl and long term compatibility. I agree - I just feel it'd be very difficult dealing with the fact that you spent so much emotional energy and time on this person, only to be disappointed or have your heart broken in the end. The healing can take a long time. But I guess taking risks is part of the often chaotic nature of relationships in general. Good morning! I hope you are well.

I was a little reluctant to send this because I know you are busy and I feel you may be a little disjointed since I left. I sort of feel out of it like you did my last day. I am not sure how to articulate it but I do know I miss our conversations! Anyway, I hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving with your family. Thank you for your response. He is 34 and told me he wants a lasting relationship like his parents have.

We did talk about intimate stuff and share pics often on chat. He even at one time said we should spend Christmas together. When I was leaving after my visit he asked me to visit again. I am just confused but when I think back to when we first met I always initiated the conversation. When I returned I texted to see how he was. I am going to text him a wish for the holiday tomorrow.

It really sucks because I thought we had so much potential to grow and maybe begin a relationship. Thank you! He is 34 and we connect on so many levels. We did talk about intimate stuff and did share pictures often. He even said we should spend Christmas together.

Before I left him he asked me to visit again. It is just so confusing but when I think back to when we first met we texted off and on but I always initiated the conversation. When I returned I texted him to see how he was. I appreciate your insight and advice.

Thank you for taking the time to share your story in such detail. I appreciate it. I don't know if I can help you much on this, but here goes. How young is he? Maybe he just isn't mature enough to handle this. It is certainly confusing as to why he wouldn't want to be close to you. Did you guys talk about intimate things on chat? Did you share pictures of each other? I am not sure if he viewed this relationship as purely platonic. Maybe you don't know the answers to some of this yourself, so I would come to the questions you asked in the end.

The right thing to do is to give him space. Since he is not responding to your texts, it is pointless texting him. You don't want him to be forced into replying to you, do you? So just let him be.

One-sided affection is not going to take you anywhere. He needs to feel the same for you, and if he doesn't, there is nothing you can do. By not texting him, don't worry about any feelings that he may think you have forgotten. I think he knows by all that you texted to him before this that your feelings for him are strong.

Whether he has a girlfriend or not, I do not know, but all that should concern you now is the way forward, and the way forward is to take control of your life alone. Do your stuff. Get involved in something that takes your mind away from him. Get busy with that. As far as this relationship, if it has a future, it will reveal itself before you.

If he has strong enough feelings as you had for him , then he would come back on his own. We can only control stuff that we have control over. We can't control someone else's emotions or make them love us by force. So just let him be and let him miss you. If he does miss you, he'd message you sooner or later.

I need advice. I met a guy on Bumble. He is several years younger than me but we connected on so many levels. He lives in a different state but our communication was daily for over a month. He recently asked me to visit him offering his place to stay. I went to visit last weekend and our first night was great.

He was chatty but I thought it was nerves. We went to dinner and he shared personal things about his past relationship. He was opening up a lot. That evening we had a glass of wine and I leaned in to kiss him. He pecked me and pulled away. He told me that evening that he had to go to work in the morning for a few hours to work on a project. I found that odd since he knew I was visiting. The next day he went to work and was gone until noon.

He brought back coffee and a breakfast muffin and said he already ate his on the way home. He originally said we would tour the city, but then he said we would just relax and decide what we wanted to do in the evening.

He fell asleep with his head on my lap for over two hours, popped up and cleaned his house. We got ready to go out to dinner. He would touch my arm but still never wanted to kiss but we did sleep together the night before. On the way to the restaurant he was texting.

We sat down and ordered an appetizer. He spoke up and said he needed to call his parents and left the table.

He returned and knew I was upset. I flat out asked him if he was chatting on bumble. He said no but the app he was using was yellow and I assumed he went out to speak to his match. We discussed the age difference and how his parents would view it.

We left and went back to his place. He spent most of his evening on Facebook and we watched football. I fell asleep watching tv so we went to bad. He wanted to spoon so we did.

He woke me up in the middle of the night by putting his butt against mine. I woke up the next morning and took a shower. He eventually woke up and was looking at his phone. He asked if I was okay. He must have picked up on something. I was dwelling on the Bumble question the night before. We laid in bed and talked a bit. His eyes were watering and I wiped away his tear. He pulled back and acted almost mad. I asked for a kiss and he quickly pecked. He was taking me to the airport but we ate lunch first.

I asked him what was on his mind because he seemed distracted. He dropped me off at the airport. He held me and kissed me twice softly. We had a long hug and I said I would miss him. He said the same and we kissed again. He said come back and we will visit another city. Since my return the texting has stopped and no calls. I have texted a couple times with no response. Last Friday I sent him a text during the day and said I wish we could turn back time and have a repeat. No answer and no communication yesterday.

Although he was on Facebook off and on all day. We normally wished each other good morning but nothing. He has pulled away. I intend not to text in order to give him space and time to miss me. I normally initiated texts but he occasionally would. Do you think I am doing the right thing? Do you think I was just a hook up for him? Do you think he could have a girlfriend which could explain no kissing and his work project absence? I just feel so disappointed because he talked about me spending Christmas with him and more.

TLDR: Tinder So here's the thing,I met him on tinder,we started talking intensively like nobody could stop us giggling and shying away we didn't want to stop talking,there was a deep connection which I hadn't really felt with anyone. He was just my perfect match,he complemented beautifully. From exploring each other online, I knew he was perfect or atleast people like him.

I got an idea what kind of people would I like to go out with. Since we both for a while were in different cities,we decided we will meet when he will be back. Situations took place and I had to move to another city and i did. Meanwhile,being so obsessed with that guy i used to think of him but i knew he is definately not my guy,i mean i just wanted to meet him and bring my curiosity to end,atleast before leaving the city.

I knew it was infatuation,obsession,aggression and that happening just on the basis of virtual dating to me was totally absurd. I just wanted to meet him and get finished with so that i can freely move on. Never before had i ever gone so aggressive for anyone,so dominating.

Things turned bitter online itself,he wasnt cooperating. Being a very calm,intense,patient person myself i got impatient for i just wanted to meet and get it over with. We used to talk once in a while. And between all of this he got into a relationship too and informed me,i was all okay with that. The girl too was beautiful,traits like me.

I wasn't really jealous but happy about him. Honestly,happy about myself that i can now move on and he has detached himself,i dont need to look on him anymore.

But shit got serious,they broke up. We started talking again,i had feelings for him,i still do. But i cant just give my emotional energy to anyone i have met online,now its been more than a year and i want to end the chaos of love. He gets very non cooperative at such times,like he wants to avoid it.

I know he is never the person,ill have long term but i do have people who love me and i need a confirmation "no" from him so i can invest my energy who love me or whatever.

All i want is a meet-up so that i can end my investment of emotional energy. Its been more than a year and i want to meet him,meet him to end because i know he is not the one yet i want to meet him. Every fucking time we both are busy in our cities. Well I'm not sure if it's really love but I've talked to him a few times trough discord.

He seems pretty fun i do know how he looks in real life also hes my cousins friend but the problem is not that it feels like I'm obsessed with him. A lot of times i would want him to text me so that we could talk for a little longer but being a shy person does not help me deal with it at all i just cannot make the first move.

I've fallen in love with a man in California. He and I had been secretly stalking each other on Facebook and had been friends for two years. One day it just happened that we started being open with one another. He has a live in girlfriend but I knew it going into the situation. We started typing back and forth and then it grew into video chat once or twice a week. It has now blossomed into daily face time.

I told him a few weeks ago that he had my heart and his response was I had his too. Last week he confessed he loved me and when I told him I loved him too everything seemed to change. He's become completely engaged in my feelings and asking if I'm ok and we've got a trip planned to meet up face to face in New Orleans. He has business there and I'm going for vacation.

I've never fallen in love over the internet and of course preparing myself for the goodbye but, I truly feel he does love me as he needs no prompting to say I love you and he will randomly message me asking me how my day is etc. I live in South Carolina so the distance sucks but I believe he is in love!!

I'm excited but terrified!! I am in love with some one I met on dating site,I really feel something when I chat to him,but I fear to express my feeling coz he can think that it is a scammer's strategy,what can I do,we chat for 2months. Thank you for this, I admire your honesty on your article about loving someone you haven't meet yet And yes I am one of the many who fell in love with someone I haven't meet yet..

But one thing I made sure for this relationship that we are trying to build is that we slowly know each other whatever information she gave to me, pictures etc.

I tried my best to validate it through the social media her background the picture she sent if I can find it to her relatives etc The last time I ask her is how she feels towards me that she doesn't even know me personally, does she have any doubts about me etc I must say yes it is possible to fall in love with someone we haven't meet yet I am madly in love to her and preparing to see her soon in Canada Im really obsessed with one guy that i met on facebook, i fell 4 him cause he used to give me attention, anytime when i video call would find.

Was planning to visit him in two month to come not evn sure if i can still go because of the way he treat me. This really hurt me cause dont know wat to do anymore. The most probable reason why guys would not want to Skype would be if they have misrepresented themselves to you early on. That being the case, they now feel that Skyping would expose them.

Reason why they don't want to get exposed. There can be exceptions to this though, and I have to put it out there. Some guys may be insecure about their looks, but if they want to pursue the relationship they eventually have to let themselves be seen isn't it? So maybe he lied about his age to you or showed you a photo of someone else early on in the conversation. Maybe he just wants to see you and have a fling online and nothing serious than that and so he is okay with pretending to be someone else or just be content to have an anonymous online identity and chat with you.

Try telling him things such as it doesn't matter how you look, or that it dosn't matter if he misrepresented himself with a picture of someone else, that you'd be okay with whoever he is and you just want to see him and see how that goes. You won't believe how many guys just get talking to girls online when they are already married or have a girlfriend in the real world. So if you don't want to die wondering make him feel comfortable and get him to confess who he really is and ask him to prove that to you.

Once you get him to do that, you would at least know what the real story was. Most likely, you'd be disappointed knowing the truth but at least you would know it. Once you know the truth, you can decide what you want to do. Likely dump him and move on. If he doesn't tell you the truth, just move on. Because lies can't be the foundation of a relationship. Richard, don't get ahead of yourself yet. Be friends with her and see how it develops. If she feels as strongly for you, she would reciprocate your love eventually.

Don't rush it. Give her the time to decide for herself what her feelings are for you. The distance shouldn't matter at this stage since she hasn't reciprocated your love. Some experts say communicating online before meeting IRL that's In Real Life can actually foster strong relationships by helping those with similar interests come together over great distances.

Potential lovers overlook superficial turnoffs, and people open up to each faster and more deeply. Translation: While it may have taken months to a year for couples to communicate and therefore grow closer in the past, today we can have lengthy, deep interactions with a stroke of a key or touchscreen. Grey Howe counts his relationship with his wife Michelle, both in their late 30s, as one of the earliest examples of online dating.

IRC refers to "Internet Relay Chat," a form of computer-based conversation that was developed in the late s. And I lucked out; I talked to a smart woman. Grey talked with Michelle for about six months on the phone and via IRC before climbing on his motorcycle and driving from San Diego to Denver to see her in person for the first time. He never left. Thirteen years later, they got married, ironically enough for the technologically inclined couple, in a s Victorian-themed ceremony.

Since Grey and Michelle's love connection, the prospect of online love has become more and more mainstream. A study found that nearly one-quarter of heterosexual couples surveyed had met via the Web, making the Internet the second-most-common way to find a partner after meeting through friends. The lost art of offline dating. So what makes these digital relationships successful? In the beginning, Amanda signed up for the site without any intention of going on dates, she only wanted to look at her cousin's pictures.

But soon after putting up her profile, sans photos, she met Aaron, who was drawn to the mention of Jewish summer camp on her page. Amanda talked with Aaron for months, without seeing any pictures of him, before the couple finally met -- like Jon and Katie, at an airport -- when he returned from summer vacation to attend college.

A year later, by which point they were officially dating, the two discovered that their grandmothers had attended the same Jewish summer camp in Cleveland, Ohio, a strange coincidence considering Amanda grew up in Alabama and Aaron in New Mexico. While Amanda says that the two were not officially dating during the months preceding their first meeting, and although she had never seen a picture of Aaron, she still says their connection was deep.

This, she cautions, can cause people to settle for less than they want and deserve. Even though we might not be aware of it consciously, subconsciously we are compensating for the elements that are missing. From FaceTime to Skype to Zoom, there are plenty of ways to get face-to-face time with someone without actually meeting up with person. According to Joshua Klapow, Ph.

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